Reasons for FIGHTS

I daily have my dinner outside & in Gouri’s pg there will be non-veg food on Sunday’s, so we have an overlap to have food outside on Sunday. Every Sunday we both usually go out for dinner around 9. Couple of weeks back, it was already 9:45 and still she wasn’t coming down from pg for dinner. I was hungry & tired of waiting for her & finally she arrived. I started, as usual, why you took so long to come? I am starving over here (in full angry mood) then she said, there was a huge fight in our pg between groups of girls, while I was out of pg in the afternoon. They were detailing me about the fight & I was carried away without looking at time. I was pretty interested in knowing what was this fight all about so that she didn’t even notice time! She started telling the story.

Few girls were complaining about another girl & these complain turned into fight and then finally they decided to leave pg because of her! Not only neighboring pg members, but even owner was involved in fight. It was such a big big fight. They 2 left pg in evening only, after the fight!

Now I was stunned. Just because of one girl they left the place! I was eager to know, what was  so annoying thing from her that it made to leave 2 girls at one shot with a big fight! I asked Gouri, what was the problem for those 2 about her? She said, this all fight started because it seems this girl use to burn the coil during night in her room & the smoke use to come in the hall were these 2 people use to stay!

ROFL, It was unbelievable! My angry mood was disappeared by listening to the reason of the fight and was literally laughing on road. It was pretty much silly reason to leave the place where you live. How can some silly coil smoke can lead to such a big fight & make to leave the pg?OmG! Can’t they compromise for such silly reason?

I then asked Gouri over dinner table, how can such silly reason evolved in such a huge fight? Then she went on explaining, this reason of coil led to the other girl to comment on rest 3 and that reason led to comment back another harsh things and so on ping-pong of harsh comments on each other led to huge big fight.

Now after dinner when I was back in bed, I started thinking about this. Have you ever realized that every big fight always starts with a small silly reason! Initially, if you listen to the reason which started the fight, it will be pretty amusing & very much silly but the intention of the fight & the core reason will be big one which will be revealed later.

Just think back & remind how the conversation of your big fights were got started. I’m sure, first everything will be kinda normal & suddenly one small move/comment/gesture/anything would have triggered the fight. It might be a silly-silly reason. That will in-turn evolves in a big fight. According to me, It is like an volcano erupt. Like how before a volcano eruption there will be calm & it starts with some small erupts & finally BOOM, big blast & volcano erupts in large form. These fights are also like that.

Well I think the reason for why big fights always begin with small & silly reason is very hard to explain but let me try to simplify. Consider two friends A & B. Before the actual big fight happen, there will be infinite number of situations where A would have hated the person B or his behavior or his comment at that time or any minute thing or it can be even his dress or anything (which I cannot quote because it’s specific to individual with his taste & behavior). But during that time, due to social surrounding or social awareness it will not be a good time or place or situation to start the argument or fight or whatever you call.  So, that particular emotion of screaming/fighting/blabla will be forced to hide inside A & behave normal during that time. A will be unaware about it. A may not have let the feeling out during that time & it just hides inside him. Similarly, so many small-small emotions during many non-proper places would have happened and would be hiding inside A without finding a proper time or situation or place to let them out.

Similar case with B. Probably he might have also had so many such emotions about A hiding inside him, being unaware. Even if sometimes suppose B is aware also then he might act as unaware due to several reasons. Probably, B is dependent on A for some reason or any such reasons due to which he doesn’t want to destroy relationship by fighting with A.

Now, One fine day, at proper place or time or situation, when one of them (either A or B, consider A) have had enough of hiding this emotion inside him, he’ll start letting those out, one-by-one. Sometimes not even at proper place/time/situation as because his emotion hiding buffer would have over-flowed :P. So as expected, initial reason/comment will be very silly which will make B go wild. B will think, why the hell did A react so much for such a small reason & will quote another harsh statement hiding inside him about A. This will make the buffer of emotions hiding under them come-out one-by-one remembering all the old-older-oldest things.

Suppose assume a person C is watching A & B fight, he’ll be wondering, for what a silly reason these two started fighting! Then once, one by one, emotion about each other starts coming out, then C will be thinking, from where to where is this fight going… (Completely irrelevant)

I hope you got, what I’m trying to convey over English alphabets A, B & C. Even in movies, you might have seen that while two persons who are about to begin big fight they would be starting to fight first with the song being played in car! How silly is that! One person presses one button & some song plays & other presses it again & another song plays. This will go on for a while & then the core fight begins! Similarly if you observe carefully you can find so many examples. I remembered one more. In some movies I have seen, they will be fighting, for which TV channel to be played or who should have the remote. The third person watching might feel, how childish they are behaving, but we never know when that volcano is going to BOOM with that small silly fight.

I would like to conclude by saying, “as and when your emotions start getting accumulate inside you, REALIZE them and somehow let them out, as and then, so as to avoid the eruption of volcano later”

PS: I’m not 100% sure, about the conclusion of this blog as it is very much dependent on each individual. But personally, I completely believe in my conclusion.

PS2: By looking at title & reading the first paragraph, I’m sure most of readers might have thought, I’m writing some fight happened between me & Gouri, but to be honest, if I want to write a blog on that, then I suppose 1 blog may not be enough at all ;)