Situation = Relation

In a broad way, life is nothing but dealing with one or the other thing. In childhood, we have to deal with marks, rank, studies etc. But as we grow up, our dealing stuffs change. When we grow up, we have to deal with with stuffs like responsibilities, financial matters, professional life, carrier growth etc. If you observe, for all the stuff, we deal relate to dealing with people. And this 'dealing with people' is nothing but a kind of "Relationship", in a crude way. So what i say is, when we grow up all we have to deal with is "relationship". Unlike others, this is bit difficult & critical to deal with!

I'm writing down what i understood by experience about 'Relationships'. Of course it's not possible to write complete thing as it will take sufficient pages like a PhD thesis! So I'll just try to touch upon how a relationship gets created/modified/breaks.

Have you ever wondered, how a relation gets created? I searched answer for lot of time & finally realized & came down with an mathematical equation, which is the title of this blog.
"Situation = Relation"
I'll not try to justify this equation, its better if you realize than me justifying with my own examples. I'll try to quote few points, before you start realizing,

According to me, every situation creates a relation. Suppose there is a situation, then you have to deal with that situation with some other person who is also facing the same situation & that creates relationship between you two. The strongness of the relationship or the bonding is directly proportional to how strong is the situation which you both deal.
Each & every people you know, it might be your friend, your relatives, your manager, your neighbor, your parents, husband/wife etc everybody fit into this equation (if you realize).

Just think back & remember, how your so called 'friend' today, met you for the 1st time. I'm sure there must have been some situation which you both should have to deal with & that's how a relationship called, "friend" got created.

Even the relationship of parents with a child is created by a situation (which is birth of child). The situation for parents over here to deal is very special & precious in life time. (I call the birth of a child as "miracle of life") As the situation is amazing & challenging so as the relationship/bonding of parents with child will be extraordinarly superb.

Just imagine, how is your relationship with manager/teacher. I'm sure, that would be based on the work/class situation which you might have faced & lot many other situations. Also it might vary on how much personal interaction you have with him in some situations.

Likewise, all relations which you have now are created by a common situation between you two. The very first situation will create next situation & that will create further more situations & that will create a chain of situations which you have to deal & that's how your relation grows.

If you realize, even the breaking-up of relation is due to a situation. So ultimately, what i say is, the situation creates/modifies/updates/breaks the relation. Just a note is that, while relation breaks, the situation over there during break will be much more stronger then the situation which you had dealt with during creation of relation!

So i would suggest, a small tip (:P) to patch-up your relation is try to remind the situation which created the relation rather than which destroyed it ;-)

Also one more point i remembered while i'm typing this. Have you ever realized, why do people go out? for example, whenever there is a weekend or long holiday, the family members/friends always try to go out somewhere. This gives joy or fun for them.

Why do you think, people plan to go out with family/friends etc. That is because, to suit my equation, they are trying to create infinite number of unknown situations when they all go out, so as they have to deal with them & there relation grow/update (of course they don't want to break :P). Always as i said, the situation is the driving factor for creating (if you meet person for 1st time), updating (if you already have some relation with someone) the relation.

One more point which supports my equation is, the default relations like, mother, father, sister, brother, uncle, etc are common, but have you ever realized that the relation you & your mother share & your friend & his/her mother share are completely different? Same with father, brother etc. The relation you share with your mother & somebody else, will be completely different & that is because the situation which are being dealt while developing the relation will be different.

By now i hope you might have got grasp on my thought of representing the mathematical equation for relationships. Now do a home-work & sit & think back, how your all relations were created,updated,modified,broke-down etc & the situations which were raised during that time!

One more example which will try to justify my equation is a story of two twin parrots. I hope you will knowing that. There use to be 2 twin parrots. While they were child, one was taken to a butcher & other to a saint home. When they grow-up they weren't alike. Both were twins, but still the situation in which they grow-up rather dealt with while growing modified there behavior bla bla bla

 

Also if you have observed, in old Hindi movies, if you remember, to start a relation with heroine, hero use to give his own hand kerchief & use to ask, "is this yours? it was fallen here" ;-) lol such a cheap trick to create a virtual situation, through which he can start a relation by that situation with heroine. So suppose if you don't know someone & want to start relation, then keep in mind (a tip) that you should  first create a situation & then try to deal/talk so as to create relation (:P). Once you successfully create 1st situation, then start dealing with it which will, for sure, create a numerous number of situation which will modify/update relation.

Last but not least, one more time I'm quoting a law of this equation is "The strongness of the relationship or the bonding is directly proportional to how strong is the situation which you both deal"