Until
my VII standard, my mother was my educational guru. Around IX standard, I got
adopted (with respect to my education) by my new Guru named Doddwad. He is
turning point in my life. There is so much to tell about my guru & I will
definitely dedicate another blog just for him. But now, I’ll just re-iterate
his rule no. 1 which was “Never make any friends during this age of time (teen
age). They spoil your time and will side track you wrt studies. Ignore them
& concentrate/ focus on studies”
He
disappeared during my PUC first year but I, as an ideal student, continued with
his rules till I entered engineering. I have friends from school and from
engineering but shockingly no friends during PU! Even in engineering I was bit
very strict & resistant in getting close to anyone (mind was programmed
like that and it was hard to get out of rules which was followed for almost 4
years)
There
is a saying in Kannada, “hutt guna, sathru hogodilla” means, the character of a
person when he born, will remain forever! So usually, when you get some close
friends by understanding there so called, born character (which never changes),
you are almost like BFF. It’s hard to know the person’s born character but once
you know them over a time, they are no more strangers to you. You will know
them very well and they’ll know you very well.
But
soon after, we undergo several social status updates, personal updates,
location updates, getting into conflicts etc with various reasons we stop
talking with them or we fight and destroy relation or something or the other
will make us stop being friends or stop talking with each other. Once this
happens, they are like “strangers” to us. To be more specific, what I call them
as “Known Strangers”!
As
I said, the born character remains forever, no matter where they go, what they
do, how they are & since you know these people very well, it’s easy to
understand them without even being friends with them anymore. It is like, you
know them very well, but you won’t talk with each other, exactly behaving like
strangers.
These
are special kind of people in my life, whom I know well but don’t talk. I name
them as “Known strangers”. As I said, I never had very close friends during PUC
or Engineering but after that, during my professional life & before that, in
my school life, I had few close friends with whom I never talk now but I know
them very well. These are my known strangers! I still haven’t figured out, how
to deal with them.
I
am sure, not only me, we all will have some of these known strangers in our
life. Just sit back and think, their names will pop up in your head. Probably,
you might get more names than me, coz luckily I didn’t had any friends during
my PUC education ;)
When
having a group discussion with others, few known strangers names pop up in conversation & it’s difficult on how
to react or when we see them crossing road or across street, it’s difficult,
what to do? Wave a HI or give a smile or just ignore? As I said, it is very difficult to
deal with them but don’t worry, according to me, these are special people in
our life and I suggest that we should cherish them. What do you say?:)
